It amazes me that in this day and age men view every woman the same. At the same time men do not like being grouped in the “all” or “every”.
As human beings we cannot mature beyond stereotypes within our gender? Regardless of who was created first, men and women were designed to be strong. That strength whether it is as individuals or a unit should not be viewed in a negative light.
I was told by more than one man, of differing races I might add, that I am ‘too strong’ and it can be ‘intimidating’ to a man…Really?… I should consider ‘dumbing’ myself down and this way I would be marriage material… WTF?…
Let me breakdown this concept as best I can for my own edification:
1. The strength of a single woman is a bad thing
2. Women who are married are playing or played dumb to get/keep their man
Aren’t women supposed to be the anchor of the household? Aren’t women supposed to enrich their mate, support him when the ‘man’ tares him down? Aren’t women designed to nurture, go out in the fields when the man can’t?
Did I misread the history books? Did I misinterpret the foundation lessons in church? Am I missing something in the translation of ‘man cleaves onto his wife?’ Guess they cut out the part that says cleave to your wife but her strength must be restricted…
Did your mother dumb herself down when your daddy walked out, was occupied with other women or working shift on-top of shift to make ends meet?
Some women choose to be single, with or without children.
Then there are others who didn’t choose or want that path, when life thrusts it upon her she had no choice… failed relationships, failed marriage, ignorant/selfish prospects… yet she handled it.
Those who chose the path of ‘I can do it alone, I don’t want or need a man’ should not be viewed the same as those who have/had no choice in the matter.
The strength of a woman is not a curse but a blessing. Not every woman can rise above adversity and overcome life’s hardships. Women are always dealt a crappy hand but yet when you need us we are your ‘ride or die.’ We are the fools that forgive your indiscretions. We are the ones that support your wildest dreams. We are the ones you can cry in the dark with and will never question your manhood. We are the whores if we take on more than one man, yet you are a ‘G’, the ‘Mf Man’ the more women you are banging out…we are the ones left holding the bag and tagged as being ‘too independent’, ‘too damn strong’
Would I be marriage material had I left my family on the street? How about not taking care of my siblings? Hmmm, not educating myself? Better yet lay up on that cold steel table and allow someone to dig out the life in my womb because I chose poorly?
Men, do you give thoughts to the comments you make about women? Women should think before they speak, shouldn’t men do the same? Men want a strong women but if you’re considered stronger than them there’s an issue?
The strength of a woman should not be viewed in a silo. You should look at her whole being.
No matter how strong I appear to be or how much I hold my own I know how and when to let a man be a man. I don’t have to ‘dumb myself’ down’ nor am I a ‘Queen Bee’.
To be a Queen you must have a King. To be a King you must have a Queen.
A kingdom of weak rulers will perish under the rubble. A kingdom ruled by those who don’t know when to step back and let the other handle their position will not stand… evidenced by the lack of family units.
Those who read this may say I’m overly dramatic, or blowing this out of proportion. That’s okay, because I know what I’m made of.
Strong women fuel strong men. If my strength or women like me are too much for you, you’re not ready for a woman… a true ride or die chic.
Keep your little girls who will stroke your ego, sex you up, and be your trophy.
Don’t ever get sick and expect her to clean you when you can’t do it yourself. Or challenge the doctors when they poke and prod you with experimental medication. Or won’t help you look for a job because you to were laid-off.
The strength of a woman is not to be taken lightly or viewed negatively. The strength of a woman got you here regardless of your daddy being around.
I speak for these women: the missing rib that completes you, defines the village, the strength when others try to destroy you. The women who loves all of you, not just the tool swinging between your legs.
Dumb down + be less intimidating + be weaker = less of the woman you are born to be.
Thank you to those men who shared their true opinions of me. I pray you never have daughters and if you do you share your concepts of women with them. Let’s not forget your nieces, cousins, God-children. Build a nation by keeping women by your feet, instead of your side.
Lady in Waiting
I am the Lady in Waiting, strong and intimidating, who will stand by her man,
Empowering him, caring for him and knowing when to fall back.
He will love me for all that I am and I him.
He will embrace my strength and respect me as a woman
I am the Lady in Waiting who was taught strength by a woman
Given talents by her Creator
I am the Lady in Waiting who will be the crown for her King
When the rest of the world has turned their back
I will be the one to give him strength
We will cleave onto one another
Evenly yoked for we know the position each one must hold
I am the Lady in Waiting
A woman with a heart to love, arms to hold
And strength to persevere
© Soulmuze 2012
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